The Wrong Way to Ask for Career Advice
Pro-tips for how to reach out for professional guidance
Right before Christmas, I got an email asking for advice. This person was negotiating a new contract to host a podcast. They wanted to know if I thought their current fee was too high or low. I’m sure I’ve low-balled myself countless times over the years, so I’m usually happy to help people figure out their personal price point. But this email really rubbed me the wrong way. I’d like to briefly explain how basic courtesies can make or break your hunt for professional feedback, mentorship, or counseling.
First off, this person did not introduce themself. They assumed I’d know who they are. Out of curiosity, I searched for their name in my inbox and we’d intersected on a group message a year prior. Unless you were on a Zoom together last week or shared Thanksgiving in 2019, assume that the person you are emailing does not know who you are or remember you. Use phrases like, “We met in 2019 at an event in Midtown,” or, “We both know James.” Establishing or reminding your potential advisor of a point of connection will keep them reading on to your request.
Which brings me to my next point: This person did not use “please” or “thank you.” They didn’t acknowledge that I was probably pretty busy and that their email was interrupting me during…
